I remember that naivety of my twenties that led me to think that that money, rank, and career success made me “the shit”.
I was an asshole to other people who hadn’t worked as hard as I was to get where I was, and at the end of the day, I hated what I saw in the mirror, and knew I needed to change.
It took me facing losing it all to have me realize that arrogance and self-pride can be one of the ugliest traits on people. My job, my salary, and my accomplishments aren’t what made me a worthy person.
It’s been a long road, but I’ve had to “unschool” my own thinking to find the humility to recognize my bravado was due to insecurity and need to get validation from others. I felt the need to tell people how awesome I was because I didn’t believe it myself.
When it comes down to it, if you need to spend your time and energy proving how awesome you are and how you “stack up” against everyone else, there is probably a little more room for self love and a bit more compassion for others in there.
There’s nothing wrong with being proud of yourself, but when it comes down to comparing yourself to others, publicly cutting down other people’s mistakes, or shaming people for not being at the same “level”, as you, anything you have to give to this world just looks like a steaming pile of poo.
Confidence smiles, arrogance smirks.
We’re all some serious works in progress.