My father-figure John told me about “EGR”, “Extra Grace Required” for situations when people are testing us and throwing shade our way. I’ve found it an important (but not easy) mantra to use in dealing with difficult personalities, which are inevitable wherever you go. Hurtful behaviors are usually tied to trauma, insecurity and a feeling of inadequacy. “Hurt people hurt people,” as I once heard on Oprah. As much as it sucks to be in the wake of the negativity some people live with, sometimes you just have to grin, bear it, and remember, “EGR, EGR, EGR”.